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Sep 2023
1h 16m

family scapegoating abuse part 3: grief,...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

Join me for the third and final episode in this 3-part series exploring the hidden complexities of the “scapegoat” or “black sheep” role within dysfunctional family dynamics. Family scapegoats start as innocent children or adolescents who bear the weight of projected family trauma. In this series, we’ll journey through the origins and consequences of scapegoating abuse, both in early childhood, as well as its lingering impact in adulthood. Together, we’ll explore how these experiences shape our emotional landscapes and relationships. By working with and integrating the concepts covered, you’ll discover valuable insights into breaking free from this suffocating role, allowing you to embark on a journey towards healing and liberation. It is my sincere hope that you can begin to unmask the layers of this covert form of psycho-emotional abuse, and learn to reclaim your narrative, rewriting a story of resilience and transformation beyond this dysfunctional label that was never yours to begin with.

 

TIME STAMPS

 

SCAPEGOATING SERIES PART 3:

00:00 – 04:46: Intro and reflections

04:46 – 29:16: Moving through the 5 stages of grief as a scapegoated adult child

29:16 – 01:00:08: Why is the stage of acceptance so difficult for those who have endured scapegoating abuse?

 

PREMIUM: LISTENER VOICEMAILS:

 01:00:08 – 01:26:12: Voicemail from Joslyn (moving on from a complicated breakup that involves trauma bonding, family enmeshment and addiction)

01:26:12 – 01:36:59: Voicemail from Jane (the difficulty that comes with trying to make a relationship work with someone who is in a different phase of their life)

01:36:57 – 01:45:44: Voicemail update from Lauren (more on her complicated entanglement with her work colleague)


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