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Jan 2025
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EP420 - Exploring Sexual Intimacy: Prefe...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode

Welcome to Episode 420 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome a returning guest, Dr. Alison Ash who speaks to me about the fascinating realm of sexual fantasies, preferences, and the art of open communication with partners. Dr. Aly offers practical tools and exercises to help you uncover your deepest desires and navigate the delicate process of sharing these fantasies. 


Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she understands the complex societal challenges that lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. 


She has pioneered research on the orgasm gap, heterosexual dynamics, and queer and trans experiences. She has extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers coaching to support her clients to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy.


In this episode, you will hear:


●      How Common Fantasies Include Bdsm, Group Play, and Taboo Themes

●      Guilt Around Fantasies is Normal; Understanding Emotions Helps

●      Communicating Fantasies Requires Empathy and No-pressure Framing

●      Saying “No” Strengthens Trust and Intimacy in Relationships

●      Roleplay and Erotica Are Safe Ways to Explore Desires

●      Creativity in Fantasies Can Be Expanded Through Journaling

●      Respecting Boundaries Prevents Resentment and Deepens Connection

●      Why Desire Discrepancy Requires Open, Pressure-free Dialogue

 


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