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Sep 2024
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Ep 78. How Retroactive Jealousy Can Ruin...

Jeremy Tusia & Ilan Volchek
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Have you ever felt a twinge of jealousy, discomfort, or insecurity when thinking about your partner's past relationships? If so, you may be experiencing retroactive jealousy, a debilitating but also common condition that ruins many relationships. Dealing with retroactive jealousy is fairly common however, overcoming this obstacle requires an abundance of self-work and growth. 

Join Big Bros, Jeremy and Ilan, as they explore the roots and solutions behind retroactive jealousy. Expect to learn why those who value sexual purity are more likely to experience retroactive jealousy, whether retroactive jealousy is a form of OCD, why you don’t need to breakup to overcome this jealousy, how to cultivate acceptance, the most effective psychological tricks to help you navigate retroactive jealousy, and much more!

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