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Sep 2023
16m 19s

#106: Retroactive Jealousy: Navigating D...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Retroactive jealousy is one that focuses on the past, fixating on other partners or stages in your partner's lives and being threatened by it. In today’s conversation, I’ll dive into how such jealousy stirs immense stress, but more importantly, we share insights into building healthier, more resilient relationships.


We'll cover:

  • Impacting our self worth
  • Looking for skeletons and reasons to not trust
  • If you should share the jealousy with your partner
  • Keeping yourself in an unhealthy loop 

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