Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho
In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.
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Links!
https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423
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00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle
00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho
01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments
02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies
05:47 Journey into Psychology
18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles
30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk
31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk
32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits
33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD
35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment
37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment
40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing
44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story
53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life
57:04 Parenting and Attachment
01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections