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Aug 2024
38m 9s

Why Am I Always So Burnt Out?

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
About this episode

Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls? 


Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book! 


My first conversation is with Cyndi from New York who is struggling with burnout…and doesn’t know why she keeps repeating patterns that she knows aren’t healthy. She goes, goes, goes at work until she feels totally drained — and feels like her family gets her leftovers. The most important question is WHY….before we can practice healthy rhythms to care for our soul we have to get to the root of why we don’t to begin with. I help her unpack this in this really important conversation today on Talk To Me. 



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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sexand RESET. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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