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Aug 2024
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#150: A Hard Truth About Setting Boundar...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we're talking about boundaries. Boundary setting is one of those areas that we hear about so much in the personal development world, and yet bridging the gap between theory and practice remains a challenge for most of the folks that I work with (particularly those with an anxious attachment style). 

We'll cover:

  • why boundary setting is so hard for people with insecure attachment patterns
  • how anxious and avoidant attachment styles differ in boundary setting
  • the truth about boundaries in healthy relationships
  • how to navigate a fear that setting boundaries will lead to the relationship falling apart

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