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Aug 2021
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333 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Bound...

TERRI COLE
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Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous? Do you want to avoid it? Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, "I don't want to deal with it"? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotions you can expect to feel when you set boundaries and some strategies to avoid self-sabotaging in response to them.

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