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Jul 2024
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#232 - I Was Blindsided -with guest

Dr. Heidi
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In this conversation, Dr. Heidi interviews John about his toxic marriage. They discuss the beginning of the relationship, the red flags he missed, and the progression of the relationship. John shares how his ex-wife's bipolar disorder and jealousy affected their relationship and let to it becoming unhealthy for him to stay in. He also talks about feeling isolated and the impact it had on him and his identity. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing unhealthy relationships and seeking support. In this conversation, the guest shares how the toxic person used tactics like verbally attacking those he loved to drive a wedge and faking a break-in to gain attention and control. . The guest emphasized how self-trust, setting boundaries, and seeking support from loved ones helped his overcome this chapter of his life to move on with lessons learned.



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