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Shame

Season 03, Episode 19

If you listened to our episode on toxic shame last season, then you know that shame is a debilitating emotional response that keeps us from full self-expression. It represses other emotions and inhibits our verbal and non-verbal communication, becoming a barrier to our connection with others.

In this episode, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth dive even deeper into the neurology of shame and how it impacts our health and relationships. They cover the link between shame and the trauma responses freeze and dissociation, the immunological effects of shame and guilt, and how shame keeps us isolated and drives protective behaviors in those with complex trauma.

Jennifer and Elisbeth also share their own experiences with shame, going into detail with the practices and tools they use to build the capacity in their nervous system and move shame through the body.

It’s incredibly difficult to feel secure and connected when you’re living life with an undercurrent of shame, but acceptance is the first step to addressing these issues. So tune in now to learn how you can start safely processing shame!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

  • Why shame is a necessary emotion

  • How shame impacts self-expression

  • The body’s somatic experience of shame

  • The over coupling of shame during childhood sexual trauma

  • How shame drives maladaptive survival behaviors

  • The trauma of dissociation

  • Working shame through the body

  • How nervous system work has helped us work through shame

 

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