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Jun 2024
32m 15s

Ep 145: Why we lie in relationships

Eva Beronius
About this episode

There are big lies in relationships, and then there are the small lies. How much we spent on that sweater, that we indeed are on our way (when we haven’t left the office), or that their loud chewing isn’t bothering us.

In this episode, we look at why we lie or hide things from others, how it became automatic, and the hurt it’s protecting from. So you can stop using all your energy on invisible protection mechanisms and feel more like yourself around others.

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Check out these related episodes:
Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds
Ep138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn’t worked before)
Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around others
EP141: How to meet your own emotional needs
Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desires



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