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Jun 2024
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Desire and the Battle of Present vs. Fut...

Growth Mindset Psychology
About this episode

Who are you VS. Who do you want to be?

It could also be stated - What do you want to do now VS. What do you want to have done?

In both cases, the reality of how we act in the present moment can often be very different than all the desires of who we want to be and what we want to achieve in the future.

In this episode, we break down the Psychology of the Behaviour model that drives our actions. We learn how to close the gap between our desires and our actions to achieve our own version of success and happiness.


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Influence the Show


Growth Mindset pod

Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement.


Chapters

00:00 The Two Competing Desire

02:00 Desires as Contracts for Unhappiness

04:12 The Formula for Action

04:48 Finding the Right Level of Challenge

07:05 Discovering Your Path

09:23 Redefining Sacrifice

11:18 Making Tasks Easier

13:12 Simplifying and Prioritizing

14:58 Money vs Happiness Balance

16:29 Aligning Desires with Actions

18:02 Send Off

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