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May 2024
18m 45s

I’m ugly, can I be confident socially?

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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In this episode... Do you feel 'ugly' and believe that you cannot be socially confident? Discover how to overcome social anxiety and build self-confidence, even if you think you have something 'unacceptable' about yourself. Seb shares his personal story about being teased for his physical appearance and an inspiring transformation story of a female client who felt insecure about her looks. Seb provides a realistic approach on how you can: - Change how you feel about yourself - Improve the way you perceive yourself He shares three psychological ideas to soothe suffering and seven EFT Tapping actions you can take to feel socially at ease, even if you’re not the best looking. To learn more about using EFT Tapping to completely overcome your social anxiety, get our FREE Mini Course: The 7 Secrets To Social Confidence Go to: https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

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