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May 2024
35m 51s

oh the shit we normalized...but now what...

Terri
About this episode

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SOME of the fucked-up things that we normalized while we were still in the trenches with our toxic family. Cus let's be honest, I could commit HOURS if we discussed all of the every single thing that we normalized, am I right?

But....those days are over, so now what?

We are also going to talk about what we need to start normalizing now that we are no contact. And sometimes, that leaves us holding our ground (but also doubting ourselves) losing toxic people (but also blaming ourselves) feeling guilty for speaking our needs and truth (cus ya know, I would be a not nice girl if I did that)

AHHHHHH!! I am VERY passionate about this topic you guys.

Know your worth and don't take any shit, we talk about it on this episode.

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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