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Feb 2024
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trauma response activated, crash, recove...

Terri
About this episode

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about trauma responses...ya know, we are all familiar with the four types of trauma responses right? Flight, fight, freeze or fawn.

Ok, ok..so I have said it before, and I will say it again...I am a proud survivor of narcissistic abuse from my mother and the rest of my family is out of control toxic. I am not a therapist, nor do I have a degree in mental health. Unless elementary education counts, haha.

But, recently I had a stressful and well, traumatic situation happen and my trauma response of fight was activated. Well, when the situation was over, I realized something that I don't hear many people talk about. The crash after the trauma response has been activated.

These are the four stages I just recently walked through:

*trauma response activated

*crash

*recovery

*badassery initiated

Join me as we talk about embracing each stage, giving yourself grace and helping to normalize these emotions that continue to follow us on this no contact journey. You are not alone friend.

*Resources:

https://www.health.com/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-8348342

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