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May 2024
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Ep 142: How your reactive patterns keep ...

Eva Beronius
About this episode

When we learn to believe the lie that we need to be a certain way to be loved and appreciated, we start to exile aspects of ourselves that don’t fit the image. When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions - we’ve disconnected from a crucial part of ourselves. Our wantings.

In this episode, I talk about who you haven’t allowed yourself to become when you’ve been identified with your wounds and protection mechanisms - and that it’s not too late to open the doors to all your different expressions.

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Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds
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