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May 2024
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10 Steps on How To Set Boundaries Withou...

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About this episode

Are you struggling with setting your boundaries?

Do you want to know how to respectfully tell others about your boundaries?

Today, Jay questions the traditional notion that a "good person" is one who never says no. This outdated definition leads to a lack of boundaries, which ultimately harms personal well-being. By redefining what it means to be a good person, one can recognize the importance of investing in themselves and navigating difficult conversations.

What does setting boundaries truly mean? They are defined not by what we want from others, but by what we need for ourselves. Jay explains that boundaries should not aim to control others but should protect the individual from their own triggers and provides practical advice on how to communicate boundaries effectively, suggesting the use of simple, clear statements without over-explanation.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to set boundaries without feeling guilty

How to NO effectively

How to communicate boundaries clearly

How to handle other people's reactions

How to build confidence in setting boundaries

Don't wait to reclaim your time, energy, and peace of mind—take control and become the assertive, self-respecting individual you deserve to be.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:31 Boundaries Are Often Tough to Set

03:45 #1: Redefine What Your Boundaries Are

09:05 #2: Clearly Communicate Your Boundaries

11:48 #3: Be Kind, Honest, and Empathetic to Other People’s Reaction

15:07 #4: You Subconsciously Sound Defensive When Setting Your Boundaries

17:53 #5: Plan a Buffer

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