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May 2024
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"I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Sp...

DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
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In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and con ... Show More
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