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Apr 2024
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2137: The Deer In The Headlights Phenome...

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Episode 2137:

Lisa Merlo-Booth tackles the pervasive issue of communication breakdowns in relationships, particularly focusing on the "Deer in the Headlights Phenomenon." She explores the tendency of men to shut down in conversations, leaving their female partners feeling unheard and frustrated. Merlo-Booth offers practical advice for both partners to improve communication, deepen emotional connections, and break the cycle of silence and over-talking.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lisamerlobooth.com/the-deer-in-the-headlights-phenomenon-a-communication-blunder-in-relationships/

Quotes to ponder:

"The men, almost immediately when the women began speaking, would look like a deer in the headlights and say absolutely nothing."

"If someone is speaking to you, acknowledge that they have spoken; to do otherwise is just plain rude."

"The more silent you remain, the more talkative she will become. Intimacy requires a sharing of oneself with another-emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Start talking!"

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