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Jan 2020
38m 11s

He Wants Time To Process, She Wants To T...

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
About this episode

Welcome to this new game show type episode called “HE Said/SHE Said”! In this type of episode, on the Empowered Couples podcast, you will laugh, be entertained, and relate to this couple as they find out how they see things differently in their marriage even when they love each other, live together, and have been together for years. 

No matter how well you think you know your partner, you can see things differently AND often don’t even realize! (remember the newlywed game, yup it’s going to be like that!)

In This Episode:

You will meet Gretchen and Mike from Minnesota, who have been married for 13 years. They have decided to explore the area of communication within their relationship, as it’s an area that they experience having bigger differences. They are willing to individually be asked the same questions around communication to then be surprised by how each answered these questions whether it be the same or surprisingly different. Welcome to the show “He Said/She Said”! 

**Disclaimer: we by no means intend to exclude any type of relationship with the title, He Said/She Said. We just thought it was a fun, catchy name. Please include yourself no matter what type of a relationship you choose. Much love, The Freemans**

Game Show Questions Asked: 

Each individually answer:

  1. Who would you say is a better communicator?
  2. Who do you think your partner would say is a better communicator?
  3. What about communication feels challenging? 
  4. Is communication more about talking or listening?
  5. Does either one of you dominate conversations?
  6. Who initiates having difficult conversations more often?
  7. Who is better at reconciling & repairing from a conflict?
  8. Where or from whom do you feel you learned relationship communication skills? 

Quotes:

“If it’s something I realize will help him, and not actually hurt me, I’m becoming more open to any of his requests” - Gretchen.

“We got into a fight, and looking back all I needed to do was say that this wasn’t a good time right now and ask for a different time later on when I could really receive what she was saying.” - Mike

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