logo
episode-header-image
Apr 2024
32m 47s

Episode 283: Don’t Let Your Job Ruin You...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Do you feel like work is getting in the way of your sex life? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Work can leave us tired or exhausted, heavily stressed, and highly distracted, which is a recipe for sexual problems. Maybe it’s time to set some boundaries? In today’s show, we’re going to talk all about the negative ways in which work can interfere with sex, why this happens, and how we can prevent it. We’re also going to talk about how to make sex a priority in your life so that you can harness the stress-relieving benefits of it.

I am joined once again by Amanda Jepson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and ASSECT-Certified Sex Therapist. She is one of the co-founders of the non-profit Respark Foundation, a Clinical Therapist at the University of Colorado-Colorado Springs Veterans Health and Trauma Clinic, and a lecturer for the University of Colorado-Denver.

Some of the specific questions we explore in this episode include:

  • How can work-related stress interfere with sexual desire, arousal, and function?
  • If you have a particularly high-stress job, what can you do to get your sex life back on track?
  • What does work-life balance really look like, and is it realistic to attain?
  • How can engaging in sex more often help us to deal with stress?
  • What are some ways we can prioritize sex in our lives?

To learn more about the Respark Foundation, you can click here to visit their website.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

***

Thank you to our sponsors! 

The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute.

***

Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on FacebookTwitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram.

Listen and stream all episodes on AppleSpotifyGoogle, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast!

Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Up next
Jul 8
Episode 412: When Did People Start Practicing Kink And BDSM?
Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey hit the scene, it seems as though kink and BDSM have become ubiquitous in popular media. But here’s the thing: just because kink went mainstream in the last decade or so doesn’t mean that it’s new. In fact, the roots of BDSM trace back centuries. A ... Show More
34m 53s
Jul 4
Episode 411: Debunking Myths About Men’s Sexuality (Essential Listen)
Men’s sexuality is often described as being pretty simple. Sex is seen as being easy for guys because they’re always in the mood and sex is just a physical thing for them. The reality of male sexuality, however, is far more complicated, and we’re not doing anyone any favors by ov ... Show More
39m 15s
Jul 1
Episode 410: Is Porn Use A Problem In Your Relationship?
One in five couples report that porn has become a problem in their relationship. So why is porn such a common source of conflict, and what can we do about it? In today’s show, we’re going to explore how many people in relationships use porn, what fights about porn are really abou ... Show More
39m 56s
Recommended Episodes
Jun 2020
253: How To Have Better Sex Now!
Sex is an important part of any healthy relationship. Listen to this episode for some great new tips on how to improve your sex life, especially during these challenging times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to improve your sex life if yo ... Show More
39m 3s
May 2020
249: All About Sex Therapy
Most of us have a rough idea what traditional couples therapy looks like. However, sex therapy for couples seems to be less well known. Listen to today's show to learn more about sex therapy and how it can help your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice to ... Show More
48m 19s
Mar 2022
Mind-Blowing Sex | Dr. Lori Brotto
New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. -- What role does mindfulness and meditation play when it comes to sex? It may be the key to alleviating sexual distress in your relationships, and in this episo ... Show More
1h 5m
Nov 2019
224: Exploring Your Sexuality
There are many ways to approach improving your relationship and sex life. One approach would be trying new things and seeing what works. Lucky for us, Pam Costa has done a lot of exploration herself and has beautifully shared her journey through her writing and interviews. We're ... Show More
43m 20s
Nov 2022
Ep. 56 - Keep Calm & Have Hot Sex
Do  you know which sex organ I consider the most important? It happens to be your brain. On this episode we are discussing the connection between mental and sexual health, and how it is time we took the shame out of sex therapy. Who needs a sex therapist? How can you find a great ... Show More
27m 50s
Jun 2020
255: Common Sexual Challenges And How To Overcome Them
Having sex is not as straight forward as it may seem, especially in long term relationships. Our personal sexual history, combined with another individual's personal sexual history, can make things quite complicated! Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the sexual chal ... Show More
44m 50s
Dec 2016
74: Let's Talk About Sex
In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with mismatched sexual desires in a relationship. (#1 reason couples struggle sexually in relationships) Reducing sexual anxiety in oneself and in a relationship. The importance of sexual knowledge ... Show More
49m 15s
Feb 2022
S7 E5: Stop faking orgasms and fix your sex life with Dr Karen Gurney
In this episode Dr Hazel is joined by Dr Karen Gurney a clinical psychologist and psychosexologist. Karen is the Lead Psychologist for a busy central London NHS clinic specialising in sexual wellbeing. She is also director of The Havelock Clinic, an independent multidisciplinary ... Show More
44m 25s
Jun 2021
306: Overcoming A Sexless Marriage
We often think the experts have everything figured out in their relationships and marriages. The reality is they're just like most people! They share the same struggles, argue about who cleans the dishes and get on each other's nerves. Listen to today's show to learn from Dr. Hea ... Show More
34m 1s
May 2021
299: Psychological Barriers To Great Sex
Your sex life can be an important part of a healthy and happy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn great tools to improve your sex life and your relationship. In this episode with Dr. Nazanin Moali, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how emotional ... Show More
40m 37s