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Apr 2024
23m 36s

Mastering Nerves

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. 

Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:

  • Celebrate Incremental Improvement
  • Write Happy Endings
  • Ignore Your Nerves


Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0


Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.


For Coaches! 2 Resources!

1.  Coaching Stories Podcast


2.  Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given!


Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are here and here.

Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.


This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

Managing Yourself

Nervousness

Self-Talk


Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

Act “As If”

Choosing Persistence

Conquering Fear

The Executive Impostor

The Many Parts of You


Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


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From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

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