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Oct 2
22m 44s

How to Guarantee Psychological Safety

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A toxic boss destroys psychological safety on her team. One of her direct reports talks to his coach about how to survive. And how to keep his own team safe. 


Core ideas in the episode:

  • Don’t take other people’s bad behavior personally.
  • You are not a victim. You have choice.
  • Document repeated bad behavior.
  • Openly discussing mistakes without blame creates safety on a team.
  • As the leader, be willing to admit your own mistakes.
  • Ask people: “How do you think that went?” and “What could we do differently?” Then listen without debate or rebuttal.


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Get additional tools for keeping yourself and your team psychologically safe in our podcast library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Leadership

Managing Yourself


Additional episodes to listen to are:

187 - Agreeable Disagreement

70 - Assertion Versus Aggression

"75 - Don’t Take Anything Personally”

222- The Conflict Conversation

181 - Inviting Dialogue


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