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Apr 2024
1h 17m

Mind Reading & Instant Connections | Dr....

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we tackle attachment with Nicholas Epley. Nick is an expert on human behavior and decision making, a professor of behavioral science and faculty director for decision research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, the author of the highly acclaimed book Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want


Ever wonder why some people excel in social situations while others struggle? How can understanding the biases that lead us to believe we're effective mind readers of friends and strangers alike transform our interactions? And what simple strategies can we employ to build real connections quickly? Join us as Nick Epley sheds light on these intriguing questions, offering insights from his acclaimed book "Mindwise" and revealing the secret to truly understanding what others think, believe, feel, and want.


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What is the biggest problem that stops us from being able to better understand and predict what other people think?
  • How well do we really know what others think and feel?


  • Dispelling the biggest myth about our brains – 13:36
  • Why does the biggest myth about how we use our brains continue to persist and why is it wrong?
  • How does perspective drastically change one person’s understanding of a situation and what can you do to alleviate the inevitable friction that difference in perspective causes?


  • The biggest hurdles most people struggle with when reading minds – 18:55
  • What are the dangers of typing vs. talking in our ability to convey sarcasm and understand each other?
  • How does our prediction of future behaviors or reactions in extreme situations often mislead us?
  • When are stereotypes useful and when are they harmful?


  • Dispelling the biggest myth about political polarization – 35:47
  • Is the country actually becoming more polarized politically or is something else going on that makes us think we’re becoming more polarized?


  • The importance of direct communication most people miss – 41:59
  • What is the best way to make any interaction with a stranger into a positive one that can lead to friendship or romance? 


  • Most people won’t do this to create deeper relationships in their lives – 58:40
  • What do most people avoid doing even though it’s the best way to create the deep relationships they want in their lives?

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