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Feb 2023
28m 49s

How to Respond to a Tantrum

Albiona Rakipi
About this episode

We will be discussing how to respond to tantrums in this episode. I did a recent post on tantrums and I talked about the three things not to do during a tantrum and I got a lot of questions on this. So this episode I am going over 5 questions that were asked. I am going over ways to help during a tantrum and also things I have learned to change in how I handle situations. I hope you enjoy it!  Please excuse my dog in the background, dogs have tantrums too!

 

How to Respond to Tantrums:

 

  • 3 things not to do during a tantrum and why.
  • Why we want to hold space for our kiddo during a tantrum.
  • Why it’s important for kiddos to regulate their emotions and the effects it has on them.
  • Ways to help during a tantrum.
  • Make sure you are on my email list so that you can sign up for my first-ever Live workshop on tantrums, the information comes out this week!
  • How to handle tantrums around 15 months. A little different than when they are 3.
  • How framing the situation before a tantrum is helpful.
  • How using PARR (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect) during tantrums can help cope with the situation easier.
  • Why keeping your calm is essential for your kiddo during a tantrum.
  • Advice for a teacher on how to handle tantrums in the classroom.
  • How I handled tantrums in the classroom in my past years of teaching.
  • Great quote from Dr. Becky Kennedy, author of Good Inside, Don't necessarily parent to be fair, parent the needs of your child.
  • Techniques to calm down during a tantrum.
  • The Starfish breathing to help stay calm during a tantrum or after.
  • Why I don’t like the saying “Use your words”.

Resources:

Make sure you are on my email list so that you can sign up for my first-ever Live workshop on tantrums, the information comes out this week! 

Check out Episode 7 with how to use the starfish method with my good friend Harmony Slater. 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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