Building Your Kids' Tolerance for Frustr...

In today’s solo episode, I’m answering your questions about how to ensure we don’t raise entitled kids. This is an important question that many of you have asked me on all my platforms. Being entitled can be a very triggering thing for a lot of parents, especially those that grew up without a lot of wealth. We want to teach our kids a sense of gratitude and caring for others. What it really comes down to is teaching kids the ability to tolerate frustration and deal with an outcome they don’t want. I’m sharing three things you can do at home to help build a tolerance for frustration.

• Gain the ability to wait
  • Waiting will elicit frustration in kids, but if they want it badly enough, they will wait it out.
  • How often do we quickly accommodate simple tasks for our child when we could weave in a wait time?
  • By doing this, we are delaying gratification.
• Play a game with your child
  • Make sure you go first and they go second.
  • Find the longest amount of time they can wait, and then allow them to take their turn. 
  • Meet them where they’re at no matter how short the amount of time they can wait is.
• Let them struggle through a task
  • Kids will often feign an ability to do something on their own even though they’re capable.
  • The whining that happens with a task they don’t want to do is because they can’t tolerate the frustration of struggling with a task.
  • Encourage them to keep trying, assuming you have the time.

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