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Mar 2024
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2100: When People Aren’t Who We Need The...

Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino
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Episode 2100:

Shelby Forsythia delves into the profound pain of unmet expectations in relationships in "When People Aren’t Who We Need Them To Be," emphasizing the importance of grieving for what our relationships are not. Forsythia provides a compassionate guide to accepting loved ones as they are, while also navigating our own desires for change and improvement in those relationships.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://medium.com/@shelbyforsythia/when-people-arent-who-we-need-them-to-be-5c878a444774

Quotes to ponder:

"When you love someone, you have to love them for who they are, not who you want them to be."

"Grieving is not just for death; it's also for the living relationships that don't meet our expectations."

"We must grieve the 'ideal' versions of our loved ones to truly accept them and move forward."

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