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Feb 2024
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Communicating through Disagreements, Thr...

MARK RAFFAN
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If a conversation with an employee has become a disagreement and you can't seem to work through it, what do you do? Communicating through disagreements is tricky. Where do you start? According to Debra Roberts, you need to get to the root of the issue by listening. Only then can you determine next steps. Learn her framework in this throwback episode of Negotiations Ninja.

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