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Nov 2021
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How to Disagree Productively and Find Co...

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Often it feels like the only thing we can agree on is that we can't agree on anything. World debate champion Julia Dhar offers three techniques to reshape the way we talk to each other so we can take our disagreements somewhere fruitful — over family dinners, during work meetings, and in our national conversations. Plus host Modupe Akinola explains why better arguments might start not with arguments at all, but with better questions. We hope you enjoy this episode from the TED Business archive, and find it helpful in any difficult conversations you have to navigate over the holiday season.



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