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Feb 2024
48m 57s

How Jan overcame his Social Anxiety with...

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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In this episode... This interview with a former Social Anxiety sufferer and Social Confidence Club member is 100% impressive - it’s the recording of our recent event where he joined LIVE to share his journey out of Social Anxiety. We never get tired to point out how special it is for former Social Anxiety sufferers to publicly share their journeys, insights, and transformation. To do this completely unscripted and live in front of an unknown audience is next level. Respect Jan! Sebastiaan and Jan talk about his experience of suffering from Social Anxiety, typical thoughts that plagued him, and how he felt limited in countless ways: “There were many things I wanted to do, that I couldn't do, that I didn't do, or that I couldn't do as much as I would have liked to.” They dig into his healing journey, which started off with a few sessions with Sebastiaan, and years later he joined the Social Confidence Club: “I’m not saying this lightly, because Social Anxiety was a really, really big thing for me. And I felt so hopeless. I was like, I'm never going to overcome this. Well, and I'm very sure that this Club helped me so much.” Lastly, Jan gives detailed insights on where he is now with his Social Anxiety, and how his new life looks like. He says: “I had this anxiety for such a long time, a decade. And it took me so much effort and energy to overcome it. But now it almost feels as if it's something from the past. Things such as getting invited to a party or going on a date or meeting colleagues, or friends I haven't seen in a long time just feels like something I actually like, and I'm not worried what is this gonna happen… I'm just looking forward to most situations, instead of dreading them. I feel I'm a lot more happy with myself. And I'm a lot more at ease with myself, which is for me a very personal observation. But that is, for me a very important marker of success.” Here is how to follow Jan’s recommendation of joining the Club: The Social Confidence Club is a fully guided program with weekly group coaching, guided tapping exercises, a supportive community, and much more to build social confidence, and eliminate social fears—all from the comfort of your own home. Learn more about the Club in this video and sign up for the early announcement list to be the first to know when registration opens - it’s only 5 days a year, so go sign up now at https://bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub 

-- Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

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