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Jan 2024
24m 48s

Ep. 224 - Trying vs deciding

Breakup Coach Dorothy
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Today we explore the transformative concept of embodying a state of being rather than just attempting it, drawing inspiration from the book "A Happy Pocket Full of Money." Using the context of getting over an ex, the episode delves into the significance of aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions with the authentic self. The host emphasizes the power of deciding to be over an ex, challenging the conventional belief that actions and feelings precede the state of being. Drawing parallels with her personal life, the episode illustrates how decisive action yields more substantial results compared to scattered efforts. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their approach, confront self-deception, and truly commit to overcoming past relationships. Leave this episode knowing the exact steps to deciding to get over your ex.

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