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Jan 2024
35m 11s

Ep 370: Crafting Your Character

TONYA LEIGH
About this episode

Host Tonya Leigh kicks off the new year by asking listeners to reflect on the characters they are tired of playing and the ones they are ready to step into. The episode discusses the external factors that support a person's character, specifically focusing on style and environment. The host emphasizes the importance of these external factors in expressing and confirming one's character.

Tonya also mentions an exercise called "Characters in Your Closet" where individuals can examine the clothes in their closet and identify the characters they have been playing based on their clothing choices. She suggests that by intentionally choosing their style, individuals can embody new characters that align with their desired self-image.

Tune in to start the year off right with this thought-provoking episode.

 

Episode Breakdown:

01:17 What does it mean to create, not fix

03:21 Live Like an Editor Workshop

08:27 We can have fixed mindsets

10:55 The character of the abdicator

12:49 The cost of playing this character 

17:40 Responding to the world around you

19:06 Your character determines your relationships

22:08 This was the year that it ended

25:01 Famous Rachel Zoe philosophy

27:25 The character of an energized woman

 

Quotes:

“I want you to think about the difference in saying to yourself, I need to fix myself or I want to create myself.”

“So many people, when I've talked to them about this concept of you can change who you are, they want to tell me, no, there's just an internal blueprint that you can't change.”

“Last year, I found myself playing a character that I've been really good at playing. And in some ways, it has served me because that's the thing. If it didn't serve us, we wouldn't play it.”

“ I feel like I have stepped in my power in so many ways, but there were a couple of things specifically that I looked at and I was like, Oh, I've been playing the character of abdicator.”

“That's a key aspect of character. It's not just about how you act. It's also about how you interact and connect with others”

“I'm going to speak up when I feel like someone is out of integrity. I'm going to speak up when there is something that needs to happen. And I'm going to be willing to have the hard conversations and make the hard decisions so that those things happen”

 

Useful Resources:

Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

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