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Dec 2023
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MICHAEL GERVAIS | Get Over What Others T...

Ryan Michler
About this episode

Fear keeps most men from pursuing meaningful and fulfilling opportunities in life – whether romantic, a business start-up, having a hard conversation, asking for a promotion or the sale, etc. But it really isn’t what we think it is – the fear of failure. More often than not, it’s the fear of what others may think about us that keeps us from going after what we desire. My guest is Dr. Michael Gervais, a psychologist who studies mastery and what keeps us from obtaining it. In fact, he has worked with Super Bowl Champions, Olympic Gold Medalists, and some of the most elite performers in the world. Today, we discuss FOPO (fear of people’s opinions), the first rule of mastery, why we care so much about what others think, how we over-index approval as a necessary part of tribe building, and the dangers in being a one-dimensional man.

 

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

  • What keeps us from obtaining mastery
  • Fear of people’s opinions
  • The first rule of mastery
  • Why we care so much about what others think
  • The dangers in being a one dimensional man
  • Single focused mindfulness and contemplative mindfulness
  • How to be present

 

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