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Nov 2023
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143. Why do we replay conversations?

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Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring:

  • Rumination
  • The illusion of control
  • Social approval
  • Hypervigilance
  • Rejection sensitivity dysphoria
  • Social anxiety, and more

We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!

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