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Nov 2023
25m 41s

Is It Time to Retire the Stages of Grief...

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About this episode

Everybody knows the stages of grief. Even if you didn’t go to grad school, I bet you can rattle them off. Thing is - those stages don’t help anyone: not the pros trying to support patients or clients, not the person trying to survive an impossible situation. 

 

Tune in for the inside scoop on the stages of grief and what we should be doing instead, with a special shout-out to the tv shows getting grief right.  

 

In this episode we cover:

  • Where the stages of grief came from, and why their creator was Less Than Pleased with what happened next
  • Whether an “innocent” mention of the stages of grief really matters in a movie or tv show (shout out to Netflix: HMU!) 
  • What to do if your boss asks you to support your co-workers through a death in the company
  • And much more, because I have a lot to say on these stages, apparently

 

We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons of It’s OK that You’re Not OK.

 

Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.

 

Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses

 

About Megan: 

Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today’s leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It’s Ok that You’re Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief

 

Additional resources:

Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here

 

Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed

 

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