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Oct 2023
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Elliot Page ON: How to Turn Self-Hate In...

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About this episode

Can self-hate be turned into self-love, and if so, where does this transformation start? 

How can we replace self-criticism with affirmations and begin prioritizing self-care?

Today, I have something truly special to share with you on the On Purpose podcast. We're about to dive deep into the incredible journey of Elliot Page, whose story is not just a memoir but a testament to the power of self-discovery and authenticity. 

Elliot Page is an Academy Award-nominated actor, director, producer, writer, and a New York Times bestselling author known for his indelible on-screen presence in both tentpole and art house films. Today we are talking about his memoir Pageboy which became an instant bestseller. 

Starting with a detailed exploration of life-changing memories, we journey alongside Elliot through a life-long experience that's beautifully reflected in this memoir. It's a story of resilience and growth, a reminder that we all have the capacity to overcome challenges and find our true selves.

Elliot's story sheds light on the importance of not letting societal conditioning dictate who we are. We'll explore how being true to yourself can lead to living the life you've always wanted. From struggles to self-discovery, we will discover the impact of authenticity and self-acceptance and how these can help anyone take pivots at the most crucial moments. 

And amidst it all, we'll touch on topics like community support, transitioning resources, and how parents can empower their children to express themselves.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to let go of self hate

How to appreciate your authenticity

How to develop self love

How to find your own voice

The importance of community support

The challenges when transitioning

How to deal with unsupportive people

This episode is not just about one person's journey; it's about the universal themes of self-love, acceptance, and the incredible strength of the human spirit. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:58 Elliot's Memory Exploration 

03:46 Pageboy: A Memoir

06:16 Breaking The Mold Of Conditioned Reactions 

07:41 Living Your Dream Life

09:28 Fighting to Function In Your Own Pace

10:26 Let People Be Themselves

13:08 How Transition Shapes Your Profession and Life

15:15 The Positives of Being Grounded And Present

18:20 The Significance of Community Support

20:16 Resources for Transitioning Individuals

23:19 How Parents Can Aid In Self-Expression 

25:13 Misconceptions on Youth and Trans Health

28:43 Trans Men On Conversations About Masculinity

32:11 Empathetic Conversations With Other Trans People

38:09 Lessening the Burden of Feeling Alone

42:51 Connecting Through Stories

44:29 Balancing Alone Time And Forming Relationships

47:30 Living A Life With Limited Resources

51:40 Biographies And Intriguing Lives

53:04 Having A Moment Of Self Love

56:14 Elliot Page on Final Five  

Episode Resources:

Elliot Page | Twitter

Elliot Page | Instagram

Elliot Page | Facebook

Pageboy: A Memoir 

If you are interested in learning more in the topics we discussed today, below is a book list curated by Elliot Page: 
 
A Trans Man Walks Into a Gay Bar, Harry Nicholas
Amateur, Thomas Page McBee
Bellies, Nicola Dinan
He/She/They, Schuyler Bailar
Miss Major Speaks, Miss Major and Toshio Meronek
None of the Above, Travis Alabanza
Redefining Realness, Janet Mock
Surpassing Certainty, Janet Mock
The Risk it Takes to Bloom, Raquel Willis
The Transgender Issue, Shon Faye
Transgender History, Susan Stryker
We Both Laughed in Pleasure, Lou Sullivan

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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