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Oct 2023
47m 18s

Toxic achievement culture

Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
About this episode

This Isn't Therapy... it's an epi about toxic achievement culture (what!!?!?!)... In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss an emerging therapy therapy theme about the ways that achievement can be toxic, unhealthy, and unproductive. They dive deep into an article about achievement, feeling enough, and "mattering." They talk about the importance of having social proof in order to feel like we matter and what we can do to reclaim a sense of true community and interdependence. Also, make sure to listen all the way through -- Jake and Simon get vulnerable.

Article: Grim expectations: An expert explains how toxic achievement took over American childhood by Mary Elizabeth Williams
Book referenced: Never Enough by Jennifer Breheny Wallace

Creators & Guests


Hello, hi! Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣
Jake Ernst: @mswjake
Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon
Episode mixed by Jordan Paluck
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