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Oct 2023
18m 15s

are you in a trauma bond?

Bobo, Donavon and Mango
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hello sweet peaches, this week we're talking about all the insidious ways trauma shows up and slowly corrodes loving relationships. we discuss some of the signs that you're in a trauma bond as well as the ways society and its institutions encourage (and even glorify) these toxic dynamics.


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