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Aug 2023
37m 15s

Should you make a list of everything the...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode

What would happen if you decided to write them a loving, supportive letter outlining all of their hurtful behaviors in hopes they'll read it and finally realize they need to change?

Will it backfire on you? I talk about that in this episode.

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