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Aug 2023
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Episode 211: Tips For Improving Sexual C...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
The most commonly offered piece of sex advice I hear people give is to communicate more. While this advice certainly makes sense, simply telling people to "communicate more" can ring kind of hollow if it's not coupled with information on how to do it. Most of us recognize the importance of communication; however, we don't always do it because we often lack communication skills. So let's talk about how to talk about sex! I am joined once again by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy, a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist. Along with Jennifer Vencill, Lauren is co-author of the forthcoming book, Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships, which we covered in the previous two episodes. Some of the topics we discuss include:
  • How can partners get in the habit of talking about sex without it being a source of anxiety?
  • What are some strategies for bringing up sexual difficulties with a partner?
  • How can we express our "no's" and hear a partner's "no's" in more productive ways?
  • What are some healthy ways to share our fantasies and desires with a partner?
  • How can you leverage non-verbal communication to express your sexual wants and needs?
To learn more, make sure to check out Lauren's website and connect with her on Instagram. Thank you to our sponsors! Are you passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. ***

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