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Jul 2023
55m 2s

The Truth About Honesty

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Think about how often you hold back honest opinions of someone else because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. But there are times when this well-intended restraint can be a mistake. This week, in the second part of our series on failure and feedback, psychologist Taya Cohen helps us understand when — and how — to be honest. 

If you missed the first part of our series — which focuses on how we can become better at learning from difficult or negative feedback — you can find it here

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