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Jul 2023
55m 2s

The Truth About Honesty

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode
Think about how often you hold back honest opinions of someone else because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. But there are times when this well-intended restraint can be a mistake. This week, in the second part of our series on failure and feedback, psychologist Taya Cohen helps us understand when — and how — to be honest. 
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