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Jul 2023
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Ep. 437: To Make a Good Connection, Talk...

Gretchen Rubin / The Onward Project
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We talk about the fact that despite the widespread “reticence bias,” research suggests that we appear more likeable and interesting to a stranger when we talk more than half the time. We also discuss why it’s so important never to put anything in a text or email that we wouldn’t want to be made public, why it’s useful to eat before an important meeting, and share a terrific list of positive trends for which we can be grateful.

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