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Jan 2024
52m 19s

3 Ways To Boost Your Likability For Easy...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we tackle likability with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold. 


In this episode, we unpack the secrets to becoming irresistibly likable, mastering the art of propinquity, and leveraging your network effectively. We tackle burning questions such as how to build a vibrant social life irrespective of your location, the role of technology in networking, and how to make every social interaction count. Whether you're starting anew in a different city or looking to inject new energy into your current social circle, this episode is a goldmine of strategies and insights.

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What is propinquity, and how can it drastically improve your ability to make friends anywhere you live?


  • Stop unknowingly sabotaging your social life – 11:38
  • Are you unknowingly sabotaging your social life? Learn the common pitfalls to avoid and boost your social presence
  • Want to know how propinquity can boost your career? Discover how one client dramatically improved his professional life using this concept


  • Turn mindless activity into great networking opportunities – 19:12
  • Why is mindless social media scrolling a missed opportunity? Learn how to turn your social media habits into networking gold
  • How can your reputation skyrocket your likability and networking success? Find out the power of social proof in expanding your circle


  • The secret to boosting your likability – 30:01
  • How can showing curiosity in others' interests boost your likability?
  • Feeling like your interests are too niche for others? Learn how to find common ground in any conversation


  • The hidden psychological principle that draws people in – 40:15
  • What psychological principles drive our attraction to others and how can you use those principles to boost your likability?
  • How can you leverage online platforms to showcase your personality and interests?

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