logo
episode-header-image
Jun 2023
46m 10s

Talk To Anyone Anywhere. Breaking The Ic...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month.


In today’s episode, we cover breaking the ice with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael. 

 

Taking the first step is often the hardest, so when it comes to breaking the ice what is the most effective way to strike up a conversation, what mindset can you cultivate that will make conversations flow effortlessly, and what can you do to become unforgettable in the eyes of people you meet? 


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • How do you start conversations with strangers without coming off as awkward?


  • The Conversation Formula – 7:50
  • What are some examples of simple questions to ask in social, romantic, or professional environments to start a conversation? 
  • Why is it important to focus on "we" moments in conversations rather than just talking about yourself?
  • What questions should you avoid in conversation?


  • What Should You Say Next – 21:24 
  • Why should you avoid asking questions over and over again, and what should you say after someone answers your question?
  • If curiosity is the key to great conversations, how do you cultivate your own curiosity so conversations don’t feel awkward and forced?
  • What topics should you avoid when talking to someone new?


  • Become Unforgettable – 27:57
  • How do you create a positive, memorable impression so people never forget you and look forward to spending time with you?
  • What exercise can you use in a conversation to create a stronger bond with anyone?


With all of these tips in mind, it's important to remember that building meaningful relationships still takes time and effort. It's not a one-time event; rather, it's an ongoing process that grows with each new connection. Working on developing meaningful relationships may bring success in the professional or personal goals desired. Nevertheless, it also requires a commitment to get out of your comfort zone, acknowledge different points of view, listen more than you talk, and ask thoughtful questions about the person and what they stand for. Ultimately, when we put care into connecting to others on a more focused level and look beyond our surface interests or intentions, we can create stronger connections that have a lasting impact on our lives.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Up next
Jul 7
Your Brain Needs More Space, Not More Hacks | Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff
Can being "too smart" actually hold you back socially? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak sit down with Anne-Laure Le Cunff—founder of Ness Labs and a former Googler turned neuroscience researcher—to explore the psychology of overthinking, soci ... Show More
1h 4m
Jul 4
Supercharge Your Charisma [Social Intelligence Brief]
If you’ve ever felt invisible in a room full of people, it’s not your personality—it’s your presence. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and John unpack the three research-backed traits that make people charismatic, memorable, and magnetic—whether you're an introvert or n ... Show More
20m 12s
Jun 30
Nice Guys Finish First—If They Do This | Dr. Ryan Fehr
When high-stakes emotions hit — anger, anxiety, fear — most people default to either freezing or reacting. In this episode of Social Intelligence, Dr. Ryan Fehr, a leadership professor at the University of Washington, shares tools that help Navy SEALs, Fortune 500 execs, and ever ... Show More
1h 5m
Recommended Episodes
Nov 2022
Ugly Sweaters Make Good Conversation
Ugly Sweaters Make Good ConversationWith the arrival of ugly sweaters and too much egg nog, the holiday season is upon us, which means that you may find yourself involved in more conversations with more people than you do at any other time of the year. To make sure you enjoy ever ... Show More
12m 9s
Jul 2019
(#104) What Successful People ACTUALLY Talk About
Over the last few months I have been traveling the US and spending a lot of my time with 7 and 8 figure earners. Some people I met for the first time and some were long time friends I was catching up with, but there was one thing that particularly stood out to me. I realized that ... Show More
23m 1s
Apr 2024
Have Lasting Conversations: The Rule of 3 & Threading Magic!
Feeling awkward in conversations? Don't worry, charm isn't about you - it's about making others feel heard!00:00:00 Hello listeners00:01:28 Talk WITH people and not TO them00:17:18 Sustain Conversations with Conversational Threading and Useful AcronymsThis video dives into Chapte ... Show More
30m 7s
May 2020
How To Talk to Strangers
Every other Friday, Amy’s calendar reminds her to make the rounds of her office and say “hello” to her colleagues. As an introvert, Amy deeply struggles with small talk, but as a manager of 55 people she’s been told she needs to be more approachable. In this episode of How To!, S ... Show More
32m 55s
May 2021
Tough Conversations
A leader, initially described to his coach as clueless, confronts a hard truth about himself. In the process, he gains a four-step tool to guide him through tough conversations. Core Concepts in this episode: To convey a tough message and maintain a positive relationship: 1. Star ... Show More
25m 33s
Jan 2019
How to Prepare for Successful Conversations [E125]
When you approach an important conversation, do your best-laid plans seem to vanish from your mind as you find yourself winging it and making regrettable mistakes? What are the most important things for you to remember? What do you need to review before a significant conversation ... Show More
23m 56s
Jun 2024
207. How to have better conversations
Conversations seem like they should be the easiest thing in the world, but we all know that sometimes that is not the case! Mental distractions, running out of things to talk about, feeling a bit off, all some of the roadblocks we face. In today's episode we break down FIVE tips ... Show More
28m 41s
Jul 2021
5 Uncomfortable Relationship Conversations You Try to Avoid But You Need to Have in the Next 5 Months
Healthy disagreements are common in any relationship. Couples are bound to talk about so many different things that affect their relationship, their personal choices, their work or career, and their individual lives. But there are topics that are somehow uncomfortable to openly d ... Show More
28m 6s
Aug 2023
Ep. 79 - Cultivating Assertive Communication
In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle discuss the art of assertive communication, and how we all can cultivate the skills needed to communicate in this way. Plus, they share their own personal experiences being afraid to be assertive for fears of not being liked, and more! Fo ... Show More
1h 2m