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May 2023
1h 8m

NATE FEATHERS | Dads Don't Babysit

Ryan Michler
About this episode

“I’m babysitting my kids,” is likely something a lot of you fathers have used as an excuse or reason not to do something else. I know I certainly have. But we don’t really babysit, do we. Babysitting our children implies they aren’t our inherent responsibility and that, obviously, is not the case. My guest today, Nate Feathers, makes the case against “babysitting our children,” and, instead, shows fathers a better way to approach the relationship between father and son or daughter. Today, we talk about kids mimicking our behavior, the changes in culture with regards to fatherhood, how to bond effectively with newborns, toddlers, and teens, learning to let go of your children, how to keep the relationship (and sex life) with your wife thriving, and why it’s not accurate to assume that you’re ever “babysitting” your children.

 

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

 

  • Fathers can be disciplined AND kind
  • The biological connection between mothers and children
  • How fathers can bond with newborn babies
  • Skin to skin contact with your kids
  • Women take what we give them and make it better
  • Enjoying your kids through the years
  • Most guys should provide less structure, not more
  • Focus on the moment, with your kids and with your wife
  • Advice for single fathers

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