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May 2023
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#167 How to "Act As If" in your Breakup

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I often talk on Instagram and the podcast that "acting as if" is the best way to move forward from the breakup when you don't fully accept the circumstances yet, but what does that mean? In this episode I talk all about how the best way to change your thinking is to first act as if and change your actions. What actions should you take when you're trying to move forward? What if I don't want to move on from my breakup? I answer all of that and more in today's episode.

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