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Feb 2023
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#49: "My ex moved on immediately post br...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally." This is a really common pain point for people post-break-up, so don't beat yourself up if you're in this situation (or have been there in the past!)

We'll cover:

  • why it's normal to feel hurt by a partner moving on faster than we do
  • why it's so important to monitor the stories we tell ourselves post break-up
  • reasons why people process break-ups differently
  • how anxious vs avoidant people tend to move through the break-up period

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