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Apr 2023
21m 12s

#66: How to Leave a Relationship (When Y...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In this episode, we're talking about how to leave a relationship from the perspective of knowing that you need to. Break-ups are hard - no matter the circumstances - and most of the advice tends to be directed toward people who've been broken up with, rather than those doing the breaking up. 

We'll cover: 

  • why waiting for the "right time" is an illusion
  • how to support yourself as you prepare for a break-up
  • grappling with guilt around hurting someone
  • how to cultivate healthy boundaries throughout the break-up

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