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May 2023
26m 1s

Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.

In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:


“Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.”

Conversations with Coaches – Episode #184

Executive Coaching Special Interest Group

The Feeling Word Grid


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk

Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:

109 - Building Emotional Intelligence

52 - Coaching versus Therapy

152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks

75 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

171 - Taming the Wild Child


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Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

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