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Apr 2023
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How to Deal with a Defensive Partner | R...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
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There are few things more frustrating than trying to figure out how to deal with a defensive partner. You just want them to understand how you feel and what you need, but they’re too busy defending themselves to truly listen.  Unfortunately, defensive reactions can make it difficult to have constructive conversations. Without good communication, the systems ... Show More
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